After going through very rough phase of life, when I started to doubt my abilities and willingness to improve the circumstances, I was literally started to cry. I started to doubt each and every event which is doing wrong- be it being angry at children or myself, be it spilling milk on the floor or Car getting old. I have already read The Secret, What the Bleep do we know, and many more. But still for some reason unless you actually go through examination, you don't know how effectively you have learnt the lesson.
The biggest deal was to remain positive despite things happening bad and you have to ask the Universe that things has to happen alright, Above all you have to start behaving that you almost have it or in other words you have to build your belief to such a extent that Universe eventually provide you with what you desire. And lastly you are going to achieve it.
Now when things are going easy, and you want to test the LOA , you are so much already filled with positivity that things start to fall in places and you may eventually get the desired object. However the challenge or the moment of truth comes when you are going through rough phase of life and you want things to not only get alright but help you to gain more things.
I have devised few steps on my own (or might be inspired from collection of readings and by experimenting on my own.
Hence in sequence that can be used (you can tweak some steps in between to suite your needs or based on your judgement though):
a) Don't accept the condition you are in, simply revolt.
b) Hate yourself to be so negative and whenever negative though come, do whatever but stay away from it. Doing anything means not to kill or abuse but writing it down about it on a piece of paper can be of help, or you can start praying, do EFT or whatever but don't do anything stupid.
c) Recall all the past events when despite of things going negative, they went excellent. This is something I have taken straight away from Norman Vincent, These recalls will help you gain belief and confidence in Universe because despite the mire you might be in and you don't see a way out, but Universe constantly trying to help you. Only challenge is you should have a doubtless belief and its not that you are just believing on groundless assumptions. You have your past as the perfect example. So recall and keep on believing it stronger. Do EFT to eradicate any doubt, you will feel the difference.
d) Start to live like a King whose orders are met as you are now in a sync with Universe. However keep these thoughts for the good things, as Universe really doesn't allow anything negative to get manifested. Don't harm and keep happy yourself and your surroundings as well. Why Surroundings- because more people get the positive vibe from you, more the power drift from universe towards you.
e) Enjoy your fulfilled desire. This is obviously the most important moment of your life.
Just before I conclude, I want to reiterate that never ever assume that there are coincidence in past when things happen for you. Rough phases in life are real examinations and more you flunk, more hard work you need to put in to get through. So just do few steps, say no to negative feeling, and see how Universe help you gaining whatever you have asked for.
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Friday, August 20, 2010
Why we get tense?
When I refuse to buy colors to my daughter, her face was almost red and she was roaring. The amount of tension was clearly visible on her face, and when I scolded she cried like hell. In fact we always have expectations and they vary with the age- obviously. And when our expectations didn't met we get angry, helpless and this helplessness amount to tension.
Why Helplessness?
Not everybody can climb Mt. Everest and even if some people did climb they were prepared for the unexpected. The unexpected obviously means- never know what is going to happen and we are not adequately equipped for the event. Hence helplessness become very evident as event is happening and lest we can do to control it. The anguish of couldn't do to control the effects of an event make us feel uneasy. We can have money, political powers, muscle power but they too sometimes become helpless as things are way beyond their boundaries.
Helplessness leads to tension
Now when we can do almost nothing in case of an event, we have fear of unexpected outcome and generally we expect something to go against us. We can never imagine if things are happening and they are not within our control, we feel uneasy, as things can go bad or good but we get to know the outcome when it will get completed. Even if we are dealing with something very controllable we have so much dependency, that we cannot calculate the amount of assumption we are making.
In Gita, when Arjuna find himself surrounded by uncontrollable events, he turned to God for the guidance. But is it possible for everyone to find answer from God and how do we know God is listening and also willing to answer us.
Great Message from Gita
The whole crux of Gita is that you have to have blindfold believe that there are powers beyond your control and they are the one who is controlling each and every part of your life and even you. Though the only negative side of this belief that we tend to sit idle as we just assume that controller of events are way beyond our reach and better not to act. This is misconception here, don't even assume that God whence says - I control outcome, he don't. In fact simple theory is Bad karma will yield bad results and vice versa. But How to simply believe Karma theory. If you don't believe Karma theory, you are free to do so but cause and effect are not simple to ignore. Even LAW OF ATTRACTION works on being positive, when simple thoughts are so powerful assume how much powerful act can be.
Big Events of Life
There are events which are life threatening and they sometimes bring so much humongous change in our life that we just saw events unfolding before our eyes and even if we say they are just our some past life (or present life) Karma's they make everlasting impact on our life. Sometimes these events make us feel so helpless and small that our negative energy totally take charge of our life and some of us start to think about end of life or something similar. But don't we have right to know what we did in past so that we can prepare us for those outcomes. We should blindly believe in Karma theory but don't give respite from pains and all set backs we get.
Forever Fight
Now what I understood from life is everything is mortal, earth is dying, moon is shrinking, sun is losing energy, hence in a way everything we witness is not going to be here forever, then what is the fun in getting attached to them. But lose of job, relative , set back in love and so forth events are still much more then simple learning phases of life. And that's how survival of fittest happens, you have show courage not to people but towards you. You have to show sympathy to yourself- that despite your hard work things might go wrong, but that's alright. Not everyone get what they want and even they get what they desired they find they got it too late or of not of any use.
Tension and Life style
Hence always be ready for surprises and whatever they are remember that even you are not on this planet forever. Science is doing almost everything to make man mortal but it is useless when everything even in this universe is dying where are gonna live. Whenever you are tense assume things are not enough for everybody and you are no exception. Time might be bad today, tomorrow it will be alright and day after tomorrow it can go bad again. So always be on toes and welcome changes in whatever color they are.
Why Helplessness?
Not everybody can climb Mt. Everest and even if some people did climb they were prepared for the unexpected. The unexpected obviously means- never know what is going to happen and we are not adequately equipped for the event. Hence helplessness become very evident as event is happening and lest we can do to control it. The anguish of couldn't do to control the effects of an event make us feel uneasy. We can have money, political powers, muscle power but they too sometimes become helpless as things are way beyond their boundaries.
Helplessness leads to tension
Now when we can do almost nothing in case of an event, we have fear of unexpected outcome and generally we expect something to go against us. We can never imagine if things are happening and they are not within our control, we feel uneasy, as things can go bad or good but we get to know the outcome when it will get completed. Even if we are dealing with something very controllable we have so much dependency, that we cannot calculate the amount of assumption we are making.
In Gita, when Arjuna find himself surrounded by uncontrollable events, he turned to God for the guidance. But is it possible for everyone to find answer from God and how do we know God is listening and also willing to answer us.
Great Message from Gita
The whole crux of Gita is that you have to have blindfold believe that there are powers beyond your control and they are the one who is controlling each and every part of your life and even you. Though the only negative side of this belief that we tend to sit idle as we just assume that controller of events are way beyond our reach and better not to act. This is misconception here, don't even assume that God whence says - I control outcome, he don't. In fact simple theory is Bad karma will yield bad results and vice versa. But How to simply believe Karma theory. If you don't believe Karma theory, you are free to do so but cause and effect are not simple to ignore. Even LAW OF ATTRACTION works on being positive, when simple thoughts are so powerful assume how much powerful act can be.
Big Events of Life
There are events which are life threatening and they sometimes bring so much humongous change in our life that we just saw events unfolding before our eyes and even if we say they are just our some past life (or present life) Karma's they make everlasting impact on our life. Sometimes these events make us feel so helpless and small that our negative energy totally take charge of our life and some of us start to think about end of life or something similar. But don't we have right to know what we did in past so that we can prepare us for those outcomes. We should blindly believe in Karma theory but don't give respite from pains and all set backs we get.
Forever Fight
Now what I understood from life is everything is mortal, earth is dying, moon is shrinking, sun is losing energy, hence in a way everything we witness is not going to be here forever, then what is the fun in getting attached to them. But lose of job, relative , set back in love and so forth events are still much more then simple learning phases of life. And that's how survival of fittest happens, you have show courage not to people but towards you. You have to show sympathy to yourself- that despite your hard work things might go wrong, but that's alright. Not everyone get what they want and even they get what they desired they find they got it too late or of not of any use.
Tension and Life style
Hence always be ready for surprises and whatever they are remember that even you are not on this planet forever. Science is doing almost everything to make man mortal but it is useless when everything even in this universe is dying where are gonna live. Whenever you are tense assume things are not enough for everybody and you are no exception. Time might be bad today, tomorrow it will be alright and day after tomorrow it can go bad again. So always be on toes and welcome changes in whatever color they are.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Struggle of life
Life is so full of struggle, that it seems never ending battle. There is no dearth of pains and relief are more often far away from reality. They are not only hard to get but they are often seems meaningless when relief are in fact reached. The most debatable question of the life is, are all we got is the struggle in life, be it like walking when we were just infant or getting into college when we reached adolescent age. But the matter of fact was we never get respite from the struggle.
Struggle is on going process. Even for breath we have to struggle, our body is constantly on run for the survival. We are not matured enough to take care of our body hence we have involuntary activities happenings which otherwise if we were managing it could have been proved fatal to us.
Also we cannot live without any struggle. It may be possible that this struggle is actually a life line for us, without which we can even die. As the most important part of life is keep engrossed. We are not then we try to escape. Hence we need the struggle and struggle of life is simply to exists forever with us, the reason being it is becoming part of our life, without which we cannot breath, we cannot live and we exists to even survive
Struggle is on going process. Even for breath we have to struggle, our body is constantly on run for the survival. We are not matured enough to take care of our body hence we have involuntary activities happenings which otherwise if we were managing it could have been proved fatal to us.
Also we cannot live without any struggle. It may be possible that this struggle is actually a life line for us, without which we can even die. As the most important part of life is keep engrossed. We are not then we try to escape. Hence we need the struggle and struggle of life is simply to exists forever with us, the reason being it is becoming part of our life, without which we cannot breath, we cannot live and we exists to even survive
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Transition
Now this is amazing subject.. Transition. It happens everyday, when we go into Hot weather outside from Air conditioned room, our body adjust to the temperature or when we are thrilled with the new job and suddenly we fall sick. In fact all the transition affects our emotion either positively or negatively. Example of a transition affecting positively is, for example you got frustrated in your job, you are earning far lesser than your most of the friends and rewards are almost Nil in current job despite you are putting too much of your hard work, suddenly you got a business proposal from a start up. Your life gets transition and you get impacted positively. How about negative, well most of us gets transition and we get impacted negatively, be it a lose of someone near or dear to us, loss of job after putting so many years into it and so forth.
But my take is why to get impacted, in fact how can we stay away from being impacted. How can we prepare our self from getting involved too much into in the outcomes of transition. Its a proactive act, always assume that things can only change, nothing is constant. And if they change we as human being is some or the other way gets involved into change and its when they start impacting or affecting us. Now the biggest challenge is how to stay aside of change and just watch them - and that too not helplessly. You have to get accommodated to change and yet don't get too much carried away with the change. Accept the fact first that change is inevitable and afterward take any change with positive approach.
Not necessarily you will succeed in the first thought, but assume . not only assume , guarantee that whatever the circumstances you are in, it will turn out to be positive. Not only positive but they will make you more tough. Remember that Darwin gave the theory of Species- Survival of the fittest, hence slightly change yourself on the positive note and you will see the result.
It may happen that you cannot see the result immediately but results must be on the way and transition is inevitable.
But my take is why to get impacted, in fact how can we stay away from being impacted. How can we prepare our self from getting involved too much into in the outcomes of transition. Its a proactive act, always assume that things can only change, nothing is constant. And if they change we as human being is some or the other way gets involved into change and its when they start impacting or affecting us. Now the biggest challenge is how to stay aside of change and just watch them - and that too not helplessly. You have to get accommodated to change and yet don't get too much carried away with the change. Accept the fact first that change is inevitable and afterward take any change with positive approach.
Not necessarily you will succeed in the first thought, but assume . not only assume , guarantee that whatever the circumstances you are in, it will turn out to be positive. Not only positive but they will make you more tough. Remember that Darwin gave the theory of Species- Survival of the fittest, hence slightly change yourself on the positive note and you will see the result.
It may happen that you cannot see the result immediately but results must be on the way and transition is inevitable.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Jealousy
We all feel jealous at one point or another. We can be jealous of almost anything, be it a smooth life of somebody, colors chosen for whitewash.. good choice of meal.. boy friend, girl friend.. it can be almost anything. And above all guilt of being Jealous leads to another emotional problem- frustration and sometimes we feel so much angry because Jealousy gets to our head that in that moment of fury we are unstoppable. Though Jealous per se is not bad. It is a natural emotional problem and can be used in positive. However most of us simply struggle to convert this by definition negative emotion into positive energy. In fact most of us only categorize Jealousy as a extremely deadly emotion and needs to get away with it or simply shed it off. However the big question is .. is it really bad to Jealous.. cannot we stop comparing our self with others .. what we have is ours and what belong to others simply cannot be ours. Also don't fight too much of bad emotions as none of the emotion is bad or good.. First we have to accept us as imperfect, and mind you nobody in this world is perfect. Whosoever it is everybody gets Jealous like you and me, and it is not something we want to suppress and we want to kill our self. However the main part is how can we convert it into more positive energy. And the best part is there are almost 100 of books available in this world in all possible language which will tell how to get away with this pathetic emotion as it is the reason of so many bad happening in this world. But the best part is no matter what you will do .. in end you cannot stop yourself from being Jealous.. why because you are not perfect.. in case you stop being jealous you are attaining to perfectionism and perfection is far from being Human. So first stop assuming that jealousy is bad and secondly you can stop yourself from being jealous. It will not happen and should not happen.. so stop spending on books which claims to make you jealous free.. This feeling or emotion is shared by all... and no one can remain Jealous free.. we are born like that and we will remain like that.. Now how to become more acceptable to Jealous.. the only way is to accept jealousy to be our part.. just don't ignore this feeling.. it always remained and it will remain.. so whenever you are Jealous speak loud to yourself.. I am jealous and it is alright.. I am just another human being and you never know the another person might be jealous of you as well.. Once you taking cognizance of Jealousy formally .. you will see in your self a radical change..
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Defeated
Its not easy to accept defeat.. in fact it is too embarrassing that many of us rather choose to take their life than to accept the fact that they are in fact defeated. In reality there is nothing like being embarrassing because their is no one in this universe who hasn't been defeated. Whosoever he/she feels like.. but the feeling or winning and failure is very relative. In a game for example when one team wins, the others are not actually being defeated or lost. In fact the team or player who has won.. doesn't retrospect that they are actually chosen to be won by some power. Hence other did mistakes and they didn't.. but it never meant that they are invincible.. anybody can win or lose.. winners are destined. This doesn't mean one only has to be destined.. it is little complex then this.. being Indian .. we believe in Karma theory and this is perfect in every sense.. as most of the complex questions can be answered so simply.
a) You have you past life karma
b) You have this birth karma
In fact nobody can be without Karma.. even God too cannot escape. However when karma will fructify and how... nobody can answer that. In practical world as well, that is the reason we have n numbers of Quality metrices, Quality management rules and organizations. And truth is despite being so many quality savvy nobody knows what can still go wrong. Hence forget if you are defeated.. nobody in this life is a winner.. just do your karma silently and keep smiling.. He knows well the truth behind
a) You have you past life karma
b) You have this birth karma
In fact nobody can be without Karma.. even God too cannot escape. However when karma will fructify and how... nobody can answer that. In practical world as well, that is the reason we have n numbers of Quality metrices, Quality management rules and organizations. And truth is despite being so many quality savvy nobody knows what can still go wrong. Hence forget if you are defeated.. nobody in this life is a winner.. just do your karma silently and keep smiling.. He knows well the truth behind
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Darkness and Renunciation
It is all very dark.. feet's start to stumble... you never know what is underneath you.. it may wanna kill you.. it may wanna love you.. you never know.. what it gets unfolds into.. and this is true for life as well.. you don't know what to expect from it.. when it is happy.. it starts giving you unasked.. when it is furious it will take everything unasked.. it simply don't ask.
Whatever it do.. one thing is for sure.. there are pattern.. if you look closely.. you will observer.. nothing is simply random.. but there are rules.. one require somebody's help to understand them.. it may be anything.. even your inner speaking man.. or your friend.. in case you want nobody's help.. you have to keep yourself in the position of observant.. this is renunciation.. simply..
Whatever it do.. one thing is for sure.. there are pattern.. if you look closely.. you will observer.. nothing is simply random.. but there are rules.. one require somebody's help to understand them.. it may be anything.. even your inner speaking man.. or your friend.. in case you want nobody's help.. you have to keep yourself in the position of observant.. this is renunciation.. simply..
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